First day of Pole Fitness

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I got my intro class for pole fitness today (June 29, 2014)  at Smoke and Mirrors! I am absolutely EXCITED to try it out! Finally!! I’ve been wanting to give pole fitness a try for 4-5 years! Ever since I saw this video from Dirty Birdy I had to add it into my bucket list.

I swear I’ve watched this video like 20 times or so throughout the years by now.  I’m always showing it to others whenever I get on the topic of cool and sexy videos to watch on the internet.  I am just absolutely in love with how meditative and at peace she looks while she’s spinning and holding herself up on the pole.  So much strength and grace!  I’m in loveeeeeeee.

I’ve bought pole fitness class coupons a few times in the past couple years but I never got to use them because I always procrastinated on booking a class that by the next time I remember it (which is like almost half a year later or so) they were expired (so much sadnesssss). But lesson learned, right?  Now whenever I buy any kind of coupon like this I schedule a date right away!

PRO-TIP: When buying livingsocial or groupon coupons, ACT RIGHT AWAY on them and don’t wait ’til the last minute.  Classes and events might fill up by the last minute (since everyone else is probably going to scramble and try to do it last minute too) or you’ll forget about it and it expires.

Link to the coupon $20 for 2 intro classes (a realllly good deal): Smoke and Mirrors Fitness: Two Pole Fitness Classes
This coupon expires on July 4, 2014 I believe so if you’re interested, buy it here before the deal goes away! I would love to hear about your experience if you do decide to take it whether you buy the coupon or join another time at another studio!

Now onto my review of my first day of pole fitness.  Here’s a little vlog of my review, I included some short clips of me IN STUDIO (one really embarrassing clip of me too… -_- but #yolo)!

Okay, so I had soooooooooo much fun at my first pole fitness class! We warmed up for the first 20-30 minutes and man was that intense but the burn felt good!! Even the stretches made me feel sexy! The thing I like the most about all these sexy/graceful exercises is the slow and very controlled movements that are required to make things look smooth and sensual, which makes the exercises much more intense.

PRO-TIP: If you’re a visual learner (like me) and need to see the teacher clearly while she is demonstrating to figure out what to do, I highly recommend getting a position in the middle of the class or up front on the right side of the room (if you’re facing her).  At one point in class I moved to the left side of the room and it was really difficult for me to see because I had to turn back around to see her.

After that she taught us how to do pirouettes.  Conquering that move made me feel quite graceful. And then we learned how to do the fireman spin and stag spin (this one looked the coolest).  I had the most trouble with the spins and to be honest I felt really awkward at first but I told myself to not give a shit about it because I’m new, I can’t expect myself to be perfect at everything the first time.

I used to feel very self conscious (I still do a little bit) when trying new things out in front of people because I felt like other people would judge me and thought that I sucked and were making fun of me. But I’ve grown to not care anymore and I just do it anyway! I’m so glad too because it was so stressful before, just worrying about other people’s opinions. First of all they are probably all focusing on themselves so they aren’t noticing you. Second, if they are standing there, taking notice of you and really are making fun of you/judging you negatively. Who gives a fuck? A wise friend of mine said something to me the other day that really hit me, “judgement is a sign of a c*nt”, now I wouldn’t word it exactly like that when I give others advice but that’s basically it.  If people are judging you negatively, it means they aren’t the nicest people in the world and you don’t want to be friends or spend much energy on people like that anyway. So might as well be present, enjoy ourselves, just do our thing and make friends that are nice, compassionate and understanding!

The last 30-40 minutes of class was spent learning a routine! That was really fun to put all of what we learned into a sexy little routine.

Conclusion: If you’re looking to feel sexier and also get a good workout in without even feeling like you’re working out (because you’re having SO MUCH FUN) I HIGHLLLLLY recommend giving pole fitness a try! My arms were sore the next couple days but that just means that it gave my arms a really great work out!  You will come out feeling stronger and sexier! Let me know in the comments if you guys decide to give it a try!

The feeling of finally realizing what you want to do with your life

Pictured: Me in one of the fields of an old castle in Eastbourne, England

It feels very much like falling in love.

You keep on thinking about it and you get so excited about all the things you’re going to do that it’s sometimes just so difficult to fall asleep at night.
You fantasize and daydream how certain things will play out.
Everything just seems brighter.
You will find a smile creep up on your face randomly throughout the day for no particular reason.
Life feels more worthwhile and adventurous.
You feel so damn alive.
You look forward to every day.
People notice the glow in your face.
You feel like you can conquer the impossible.
Motivation and inspiration come in an endless supply.

I am in love.

Early Rising – Week 1

I absolutely love the feeling of waking up early while most people are still fast asleep.  Although at this point, I’ve just been training myself to get used to the fact of waking up very early. I feel like the days are longer and I can fit more things that I want to do in it! I’ve been able to fit in my workouts and making my breakfast early these past few days. I can no longer use the excuse of “I don’t have time for it” because that really is just a bs excuse, now that I’m awake early I have loads of time to do whatever I’d like.  I love it.  My standard of early and late has definitely changed now.  Now I feel 8:00AM is late, I personally feel that’s a good thing.  My goal is to get to the point where I’m waking up regularly at 5:30AM every morning.  I am getting really close to it!

I’ve got a couple of things I need to work on, like sleeping earlier.  That is the main thing. I do really love staying up ’til 2AM or 3AM but I’ve realized that that probably isn’t too healthy for me.  I always feel so horrible when I end up waking up close to afternoon.

I’ve also been taking 200mg magnesium and 100mg of 5-HTP every night to help calm my nervous system so that I can have better sleep quality.

I’ve learned a lot and will keep my progress on early rising updated every week!

To read my day to day posts of how I felt, what I ate, and what I did every night for this first week for my early rising:

Continue reading Early Rising – Week 1

To Love with Your 100%


Always, always, always, love with an open heart. Love without any expectations! Love with your 100%. This is one of the most important lessons I’ve learned thus far in life. No matter how hurt you’ve been in the past, don’t let the trauma dim your light and ability to love without holding back. If you notice that the other person feels guarded and isn’t giving their 100% don’t mind that, be brave and be the first to initiate it and give them your love 100%. I promise you they will come around.  It’s all just a matter of time. Someone’s got to be the more courageous one and it might as well be you. You can’t ever experience the maximum potential of a relationship unless you’re giving it your 100%. Logically and technically, you can’t, am I right? We only live once so might as well take the plunge and see how things play out.

I am so very grateful and appreciative for all the people I love and the ones that love me back!

30 Day Trial: Early Rising


I’ve been playing with the idea of early rising for the past week and after stumbling upon Sean Wes’ episode “075: Why Early Birds Beat Night Owls Who Don’t Wake Up Early” yesterday, I was completely convinced to try it out.  I don’t identify myself as a night owl but I do feel like I work better when everyone is asleep.  It was just wayyyy easier to stay awake into the late of the night and working instead of making the effort of waking up early in the morning.  So I decided to give this a try for 30 days and log my results!  I got the concept of 30 day trials/challenges from my good friend Steve Pavlina! You should definitely check out his post on 30 Days to Success.

I’ve done 30 day challenges before and I know your morale heavily decreases if you miss a day and then after that the “what the hell effect” (as David DiSalvo calls it in his book “What Makes Your Brain Happy and How To Do the Opposite“)  kicks in and you start skipping more and more days because what the hell, you felt like you already “failed” by missing a day or two, so it won’t hurt if you miss a couple more days.  To combat this decrease in morale because I know I’m only human and will probably missing a couple days of early rising I’m going to give myself 4 freebie passes.  These will most likely be used on days I decide to go out for a night with friends because well, I have social life too.  I haven’t tried this method out yet but I’m hoping with these freebie passes it will help make me feel less guilty about missing a day and then just losing discipline after that.  We’re all human y’know? I don’t expect myself to be 100% perfect the first time I go about doing things so I’m just preparing myself for when I make mistakes.

During this 30 day trial I’m going to wake up and then write first thing in the morning. Sean Wes calls this routine the Early Wake and Daily Write.  He says that once you wake up it’s like you’re a fully charged battery.  You don’t want to spend all of that wonderful initial energy you get after you wake up checking emails, social media, reddit or whatever else that we do when we’re just trying to pass time by. Let me quote from his notes section of the episode:

  • Your mind is doing a lot of work for you while you’re sleeping. It’s processing things for you. Yes, you’ll be groggy for the first 15 minutes, that’s normal. But right when you wake up is the best time to do the most important work of your day.

  • External things you are exposed to during the day will cloud your thinking. It weighs on your mind. In the morning you don’t have that extra baggage.

I’ve been wanting to start writing up blog posts again so I’ll be taking the time to either write a blog post or journal every morning when I wake up. Here goes!

Day 1
Sean Wes mentioned about using the app “Sleep Cycle” as an alarm to wake him up at the most optimal time of his sleep cycle so I decided to try the same!  Let me tell you that was the most pleasant alarm I had ever woken up to.  I woke up to soft guitar playing that gently and gradually increased in volume. It initially kind of confused me because I didn’t know where this pleasant music suddenly came from. I set the alarm style to regular snooze where whenever I picked the phone up it would let me snooze, but the snooze time would decrease after each snooze.

To be really honest I almost didn’t want to wake up and was about to tell myself “oh I’m so tired today, I think I slept too late this time, I’ll just go back to sleep and try the early rising tomorrow”. Oh ho ho, I suddenly realized what I was getting myself into… I’ve seen myself do this WAY TOO MANY TIMES. When you tell yourself that you’ll just do it tomorrow and the next day comes and you put it off ’til the next day once again and so on and so forth (usually ends up not ever doing it or doing it right before it’s due if it had a deadline”? It’s this vicious cycle of procrastination that I feel a lot of us are guilty of getting into.  This sign basically sums it up:



My more disciplined self convinced me, “IT’S NOW OR NEVER DAN TAM”, I drank the water from my cup and decided to get the fuck up (excuse my french) and wash my face and brush my teeth. TIP: Drinking that cup of water by my bed really helped in rousing my senses and waking me up. So day 1 was a success, I woke up at 6:51, I’m going to make it a goal of mine to get to the point of waking up at 5:30!

Things I would like to improve:
1. Not checking instagram and snapchat right when I woke up (thank goodness I only spent a couple minutes on them each, a rare occurrence). I’ve been using instagram and other social medias to wake my brain up every morning because the images stimulated my senses and helped me wake up, but I realize now that I don’t want to be using my best energies browsing through random pictures.  Also, although I was ~awake~, I would usually stay in bed for another hour or 2 because social media just does that to you. There is rarely such a thing as “oh I’ll just check this for 5 minutes” when it comes to social media. IT’S A TRAP, DON’T DO IT!!!!!

Things I feel good about today:
1. It feels really great to look at the clock and seeing that it’s 7:55am and I’m wide awake about to finish up my first blog post in over half a year.

I’m feeling really great so far and I hope to continue on waking up early everyday for the next 30 days. Alright, now I’m going to figure out what I’d like to do for the rest of my morning because I haven’t planned that far out. I’m thinking of making myself some breakfast, then do some yoga and workout.  I would very much like to get to the point where I’m waking up early enough to do some sunrise yoga at the beach.  I think that would be a beautiful experience!

Oh and here’s what my Sleep Cycle sleep graph looked like for last night’s sleep. It doesn’t look like I slept too well. But that’s quite alright, now that I know my sleep cycles aren’t as deep as it could be, I’ll figure out how to improve on my sleep! :)

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